For instance, when I go and see a romantic comedy. I have an amazing capacity for suspended disbelief, so I am totally believing what ever I am find myself watching. Therefore, when I leave the movies I begin to compare "their" romance to my own. I begin to think damaging things like, "I am not as nice or spontaneous as "she" is. My husband is not as thoughtful or passionate as "him". We are no where near as close and connect as "they" are. I begin to long for and wish for that sort of relationship and degrade the one I'm in.
OR and this is my favorite one, I see someone and based on the snap shot I get of them I roll out this elaborate, hand made tapestry of their life. For instance, this bar owner I met this Sunday. He was smily = happy, well dressed = rich, seem to know everyone= popular and was oh so helpful= kind-hearted. I spun this amazing story about him, only to have it dismantled during the after party. As it turned out he was a a narcissistic, freak who was just breaking up with his "model" girlfriend. Not to mention he was was totally inappropriate, even after he knew I was married he tried to attack my happiness/marriage.
These points are to illustrate the ever so common plague called, "Comparing Mind". This terribly destructive phenomena is totally avoidable and NOT REAL (as illistrated)! Don't be like me! Don't fall pray to this evil mind trick. Don't be like me. Do yourself a favor and don't engage in COMPARING MIND.
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